Category Archives: Mindfulness

Get involved In your own life

When your mind is going around every topic in your life and you have many things happening at the same time, take a step back and breath.

Foremost important think to note and accept is that everything will not happen at once. So you must wait for things to happen in the order. If you are totally perplexed then this may not make sense to you.

Start with an activity and then go complete it. Take another task and go on with it. It may seem difficult to hang on, but just go with the flow and then you will be there. It’s most often you are not giving your brain something to work on, which is why it gets running all over the place.

So keep your mind engaged in activities and feel the calmness within. When you are totally engrossed in yourself, you will see and experience a change in your own behavior. Because of which lot of other things in your life seem to be happening in a different way.

Slowly you will feel the flow of actions and results connecting to one another and then you will feel better. You are able to focus better and function better. Just let this continue for a while and acquire more activities of different category. Let your body burn out and your mind get worked upon. Eventually you will feel the heat and then the rhythm will be established.

When you get totally charged, it becomes easier for you to pick your things and make decisions. A lot of things in life like your relationships and events start to make a lot more sense and you are lot less disturbed or worried about things. Now there is no space for some random thing to hit you. You are set on your course and you will fly further.

May such a continuous rhythm take place in your journey and you experience soothing effect of a worked up human brain.

Little things that can make you smile from within

What can you do to feel good from within!

MEET A CHILD IN PARK

Go out in your vicinity and look at some of your neighborhood kids playing in the park or ground. Step out and meet your next door neighbor with a kid. Talk to them about their hobbies or play with them for a while. When you engage with little children who are innocent and naive, you will feel certain emotions of simplicity and joy. This will let you unwrap your head around the complexities of grown up life.

GO FOR A WALK WITH ELDER PERSON

It may not be easy to find a joyful elderly person who engages in cheerful conversations and insightful talks. However if you can get hold of one who can talk about life in a broader sense, then make sure you stay connected and meet often to talk about things in life. It may give you perspective of life from a viewpoint that you may eventually realize after going through many things. You can then avoid repeating the same things to learn something from the elderly.

LOOK OUT IN NATURE

You can spend time with birds either looking at them from far in their natural environment or feed them if they are casual around humans. Being able to feed the birds and listen to their musical sounds will uplift your mood and make you feel one with nature.

Nature has in store for each of us, something that can make us feel alive! It’s just a matter of time we open up to such experience.

If you have pets then spend time with them. Get the most of your time by taking them out for a walk, bathing them or cleaning them. Build a house for them and decorate.

If you can spend some time out and have access to natural environment like waterfall, woods, river or hills then go over weekends and spend some quality time with family. Pack your favorite foods and some games to get the most of it.

BINGE WATCHING

If there is no access to outside world, then you can resort to binge watching your favorite movies or series. Invite your closed ones or friends over for a weekend and cook some fancy stuff. Indulge in relaxing and light music. Grab some food and enjoy the movies. Play games to mix active mood.

Over the period of time, things will become a natural habit to have a mix of everything and life will seem beautiful.

Going down the memory lanes

Take a minute away from the hustle of life and sit down. Try to relax your nerves and feel calm. Now say to yourself, you are interesting and there is more to you than meets the eye.

Think about that time you went to school for the first time. The times when you won’t go walking with your tiny little legs carrying heavy bag. Sitting in the class with full of chattering, crying and shouting kids you are in your own little world. Until you grow up you don’t realize it’s always going to be so. You will be placed with a group of people with a similar agenda and you must work your way through to fulfill the agenda.

Similarly think about all those little things about you, your childhood, friends, the places you have been to, the times you got hurt or felt happy, things you liked and the food you ate. Find out which are very significant memories that are etched in your mind. When you saw a lion for the first time, may be in a zoo or a safari or in the wild. First time you been to a concert. Similarly try to talk to some of your friends and family members about old times and make it a habit to do so every few weeks. Look at the albums you have in your closet with all those photographs taken from Kodak or Cannon cameras containing the negatives.

Indulge in the activity with your closed ones and cherish the moments. Recreate those memories and relive those moments.

Having a bad day ? Going through bad mood ! Try this

Breaking the chain of anger and bad mood.

Beautiful start of the day. Early morning he wakes up and gets ready. He kisses his wife morning, hugs his daughter and eats his breakfast. He takes a ride to office via cab. He wishes good day to the cab driver. He reaches office. He makes his way into the canteen, grabs his coffee and joins morning meeting. Everyone takes note and go back to their desk to complete the assigned work. He joins his colleagues for lunch.

The chain reaction is triggered. Post lunch in a meeting with delegates he is put on spot by his manager and gets a trashing from higher management for incompetency. Since he believed he was not at fault, rage built in him. He went to grab a coffee at canteen. He was mad at the server for the coffee seemed cold. He went to complete his work and found some pending work with his colleague, so he ran into an argument regarding that. Further during evening meeting with his subordinates he was picking everyone for their mistakes and scolding unnecessarily for no apparent reason. Wrapping for the day, he catches a cab towards home.

How it spreads during the day. The cab driver doesn’t accept card and doesn’t find any change with him. He fights with the cab driver and abuses him. He enters home and finds his daughter playing on ground. He scolds her for playing in dirt and shouts at his wife. She tries to cool him down but instead they find that he has forgotten to bring eggs for dinner. They manage something for dinner. He gets into an argument with the neighbors for loud noise from TV. He scolds his parents over phone for not taking care of them. He doesn’t meet his friends for late evening walk.

Day ends in a bad mood. He is in bed. His day has gone from beautiful start to a tiresome dreadful night.

Looking back at how it all started. By continuing with the experience of meeting over the day, he ran into multiple encounters which kept worsening as his outlook, energy and mood detoriated over the day. He kept on flowing that anger onto other persons, who in turn based on their own emotional level get angry on others. Early morning managers wife made a burnt sandwich, which got worse for him by a flat tire in his car, unable to find a ride for an hour and so on.

Negative emotions are our enemies. Everyday we all spread different emotions around us based on our encounters. Most often that not, when triggered by some negative emotions, we drag it for the entire day or sometimes for whole week depending upon it’s gravity. In process we hurt some people along the way, some whom we love and care for. We get hurt or upset on our own. Things might not be so worse often but even a spur of moment and anger bursts out like anything. By words or our actions we cannot undo, we create a scene. This amplifies certain times.

Shifting the flow of thoughts and emotions. We cannot choose what happens to us every moment. We are humans. We react to things. But we can improve. We can choose to observe what is happening around us. We can train ourselves to become more observant and calm. When we notice how our emotions are shifting over the day, we can tell ourselves what went wrong. If we can develop the habit of consolidating actions over the day and identify where things could have been damped down. We can train to respond in a more calm fashion.

Practicing to respond and being mindful. By frequently choosing to respond instead of reacting to situations and events during the day, we can make our normal response model to be a more generic, joyful and cautious one. By practising mindfulness in small things we can become calm, cheerful, delightful person over the day, over the week and when continued for years, it becomes over inherent nature to be mindful, calm and less angry.

Lessons learned. By breaking the chain of thoughts, encounters and events over the day, we help ourselves from experiencing prolonged negative emotions as well as assist in curbing the spread to people around us especially our loved ones.


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