Take a minute away from the hustle of life and sit down. Try to relax your nerves and feel calm. Now say to yourself, you are interesting and there is more to you than meets the eye.
Think about that time you went to school for the first time. The times when you won’t go walking with your tiny little legs carrying heavy bag. Sitting in the class with full of chattering, crying and shouting kids you are in your own little world. Until you grow up you don’t realize it’s always going to be so. You will be placed with a group of people with a similar agenda and you must work your way through to fulfill the agenda.
Similarly think about all those little things about you, your childhood, friends, the places you have been to, the times you got hurt or felt happy, things you liked and the food you ate. Find out which are very significant memories that are etched in your mind. When you saw a lion for the first time, may be in a zoo or a safari or in the wild. First time you been to a concert. Similarly try to talk to some of your friends and family members about old times and make it a habit to do so every few weeks. Look at the albums you have in your closet with all those photographs taken from Kodak or Cannon cameras containing the negatives.
Indulge in the activity with your closed ones and cherish the moments. Recreate those memories and relive those moments.
One thought – a lion kept in zoo is no more aggressive and gets it’s food on time without much efforts
Does it make lion less enabled for the wild ?
Same way a grown human must fend for self or be provided
If provided does that make them any less capable to deal with the nuances of life
And if not so is it meant to be togetherness and domestication as we live in social structure
But if then so, are we actually still in the process of looking out for each other as in the wild,
Since now the threat is not always equally applicable to all unless it’s a global pandemic
Have we come to a loophole ?
What can you teach someone from a young age that can help them for the rest of their life ?
Answer: Resilience !
Resilience the ability to keep going on even when it seems to have a very sleek chance. It may seem similar to stubbornness and ignorance to go on, but has got more layers to it.
Resilience can be developed and can be an ongoing process to improve. By going through various challenging situations and getting exposed to certain circumstances, one can learnt to be resilient.
It may seem difficult at the start, but by slowing making a move it becomes clear that by continuous effort more can be achieved or delivered.
When everything is going well, it can become easier to do something more and things seem possible within the reach. But when things aren’t going well, it becomes difficult to continue have a flow and things seem to far to be fetched. During those times, it is the amount of Resilience one shows along with concentrated efforts and focus that make the ends meet.
Hence if you can teach someone one of the fundamental qualities that can help them for the rest of their life – teach them RESILIENCE !
Cheers and warm wishes for winter.
First of all congratulations for scoring good grades in your 10th. As you say, that you are interested in computers and if it comes naturally to you, then you can check out one of the several options you have.
I will give example of Surat, you can check for your respective state or university.
You must secure similarly good grades in your 12th board exam. That will give you a leading edge in merit counselling and admissions. If there is any entrance exam conducted for a particular University or state to get admission into MSc IT or BCA then you must prepare accordingly.
You will however not be able to apply for engineering seats.
In Surat, you can apply for MSc IT, which has around 30-40 percent intake for commerce students and based on merit list of board results. You can also apply for BCA through central counselling which is also based on board merit. There is no separate entrance exam as of now, but that might not be the case for other universities.
When I meet parents of a young girl who want their daughter to complete her education and get married by the age of 18 so they can feel fulfilled about their responsibility in life, I feel sad and disappointed by their views on life. They are ready to spend 10-20 lakhs on her marriage and dowry but they cannot send her to a better school nor provide her with extra facilities that may help her secure good grades or acquire skills that may help her become something in her life. And there is no question of support in case the girl wants to become something unconventional like singer, dancer, painter or likewise. Even those who have big dreams of professional life aligned with academics are not given a fair chance to prove their worth.
If you do not let them get a fair chance to do what they possibly can you are jeopardizing their entire life into a cyclic loop of compromise and confusion.
Everytime you say a girl to clean the house because that is what you believe she is going to do her entire life, you are making one of the biggest mistakes of your life.
Everytime you expect a girl to believe that it’s her responsibility to take care of family, have kids and nurture them and there is nothing more to her life, you are causing more damage than good.
Everytime you tell her to not have dreams and just follow the cycle of life, you are pulling back an entire kin to be lost about life.
So wake from your false narration and weakness. If you do not have what it takes to give them the leverage to explore life and become something, what you can possibly do is at least support her until she can stand on her feet and prove that she can do it.
If you cannot give something than you have no right to revoke anything, including her future and dreams.
So believe in her and believe in yourself. In the days things turn tough and difficult, hold on until the good times come. Make every possible attempt to give equal and open fair chance to every girl and the world will slowly become a better place. You will be liberated from your from your bondages and give her freedom to live in this world with confidence and openness.
A ten year old who thinks she will become a singer one day practices every evening with new songs and tunes. Parents think that this is just a floating thought and it’s for fun. They never encourage. No special care or attention is given to her. She wins in school competition every year and participates in annual function. With time every year same thing repeats. Neither is she sent to any music classes nor given any training by a professional. She is not even put in the circle of such young minds. Instead she is made fun of by her relatives. She continues to live in her own world believing her self and practicing as often as she can. When reality of life will be at her door, life will uncover what’s in store.