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Career : I am studying 11th Commerce, which programming language is best for me?

I am a student of 11th Commerce. I feel computer knowledge is necessary in this era. I checked iOS programming language but I didn’t understand. Which programming language is in demand nowadays and which one is best for me?

It is good that you are eager to understand the career prospectives in market at an early age, however I would like to clarify few things for you, so you can make a better decision on your own.

Programming language is an enabler for executing the idea and logic that has been built to create something or to solve a problem. So to understand or be able to do something you must at your age focus on algorithm or the logic in solving problems. Once you get going with the ability to think about any problem statement in the terms of executable steps, you can use any programming language or tool, to create a code which will do the task for you.

As you have no experience in programming languages yet, I would suggest you to work on the same problems that you are solving in your day to day classes for eg statistics and economic problems, using some coding language like C, Python or Java. First of all focus on writing down algorithms for the problem statements and then think through. Learn to write simple codes to execute the same on your preferred coding language. Once you get hang of it, practice other intermediate programming features by learning from books and online courses. As you grow, you can then focus on advance coding and market niche skills.

All the best to your endeavors.

Why every girl deserves a fair chance to stand on her feet

When I meet parents of a young girl who want their daughter to complete her education and get married by the age of 18 so they can feel fulfilled about their responsibility in life, I feel sad and disappointed by their views on life. They are ready to spend 10-20 lakhs on her marriage and dowry but they cannot send her to a better school nor provide her with extra facilities that may help her secure good grades or acquire skills that may help her become something in her life. And there is no question of support in case the girl wants to become something unconventional like singer, dancer, painter or likewise. Even those who have big dreams of professional life aligned with academics are not given a fair chance to prove their worth.

If you do not let them get a fair chance to do what they possibly can you are jeopardizing their entire life into a cyclic loop of compromise and confusion.

Everytime you say a girl to clean the house because that is what you believe she is going to do her entire life, you are making one of the biggest mistakes of your life.

Everytime you expect a girl to believe that it’s her responsibility to take care of family, have kids and nurture them and there is nothing more to her life, you are causing more damage than good.

Everytime you tell her to not have dreams and just follow the cycle of life, you are pulling back an entire kin to be lost about life.

So wake from your false narration and weakness. If you do not have what it takes to give them the leverage to explore life and become something, what you can possibly do is at least support her until she can stand on her feet and prove that she can do it.

If you cannot give something than you have no right to revoke anything, including her future and dreams.

So believe in her and believe in yourself. In the days things turn tough and difficult, hold on until the good times come. Make every possible attempt to give equal and open fair chance to every girl and the world will slowly become a better place. You will be liberated from your from your bondages and give her freedom to live in this world with confidence and openness.

Life inside a shell !

A ten year old who thinks she will become a singer one day practices every evening with new songs and tunes. Parents think that this is just a floating thought and it’s for fun. They never encourage. No special care or attention is given to her. She wins in school competition every year and participates in annual function. With time every year same thing repeats. Neither is she sent to any music classes nor given any training by a professional. She is not even put in the circle of such young minds. Instead she is made fun of by her relatives. She continues to live in her own world believing her self and practicing as often as she can. When reality of life will be at her door, life will uncover what’s in store.

Stories | The Sermon at Benares

The Sermon at BenaresCBSE 10th English Textbook

Kisa Gotami had an onl son, and he died. In her grief she carried the dead child to all her neighbours, asking them for medicine, and the people said, “She has lost her senses. The boy is dead.”

At length, Kisa Gotami met a man who replied to her request, “I cannot give thee medicine for thy child, but I know a physician who can.”

it is the fate of men, that their lives flicker up and are extinguished again

And the girl said, “Pray tell me, sir; who is it?” And the man replied, “Go to Sakyamuni, the Buddha.”

Kisa Gotami repaired to the Buddha and cried, “Lord and Master, give me the medicine that will cure my boy.”

The Buddha answered, “I want a handful of mustard-seed.” And when the girl in her joy promised to procure it, the Buddha added, “The mustard-seed must be taken from a house where no one has lost a child, husband, parent or friend.”

Poor Kisa Gotami now went from house to house and the people pitied her and said, “Here is mustard-seed; take it!” But when she asked, “Did a son or daughter, a father or mother, die in your family?” they answered her, “Alas! the living are few, but the dead are many. Do not remind us of our deepest grief.” And there was no house but some beloved on had died in it.

He who seeks peace should draw out the arrow of lamentation, and complaint, and grief.

Kisa Gotami became weary and hopeless, and sat down at the wayside watching the lights of the city, as they flickered up and were extinguished again. At last the darkness of the night reigned everywhere. And she considered the fate of men, that their lives flicker up and are extinguished again. And she thought to herself, “How selfish am I in my grief! Death is common to all; yet in this valley of desolation there is a path that leads him to immortality who has surrendered all selfishness.”

The Buddha said, “The life of mortals in this world is troubled and brief and combined with pain. For there is not any means by which those that have been born can avoid dying; after reaching old age there is death; of such a nature a living beings. As ripe fruits are early in danger of falling, so mortals when born are always in danger of death. As all earthen vessels made by the potter end in being broken, so is the life of mortals. Both young and adult, both those who are fools and those who are wise, all fall into the power of death; all are subject to death.”

he who has overcome all sorrow will become free from sorrow, and be blessed

“Of those who, over come death, depart from life, a father cannot save his son, nor kinsmen their relations. Mark! while relatives are looking on and lamenting deeply, one by one mortals are carried off, like an ox that is led to the slaughter. So the world is afflicted with death and decay, therefore the wise do not grieve, knowing the terms of the world.”

“Not from weeping nor from grieving will anyone obtain peace of mind; on the contrary, his pain will be the greater and his boy will suffer. The will make himself sick and pale, yet the dead are not saved by his lamentation. He who seeks peace should draw out the arrow of lamentation, and complaint, and grief. He who has drawn out the arrow and has become composed will obtain peace of mind; he who has overcome all sorrow will become free from sorrow, and be blessed.”


Source: Betty Renshaw – Values and Voices: A College Reader (1975). An extract from CBSE 10th English Textbook

Joy and Sorrow | Kahlil Gibran’s The Prophet

Joy and Sorrow

Then a woman said, “Speak to us of Joy and Sorrow”.
And he answered:
Your joy is your sorrow unmasked.
And the selfsame well from which your laughter rises was oftentimes filled with your tears.
And how else can it be?
The deeper that sorrow carves into your being, the more joy you can contain.
Is not the cup that holds your wine the very cup that was burned in the potter’s over?
And is not the lute that soothes your spirit, the very wood that was hollowed out with knives?
When you are joyous, look deep into your heart and you shall find it is only that which has given you sorrow that is giving you joy.
When you are sorrowful look again in your heart, and you shall see that in truth you are weeping for that which has been your delight.
Some you say, “Joy is greater than sorrow”, and others say, “Nay, sorrow is the greater.”
But I say unto you, they are inseparable.
Together they come, and when sits alone with you at your board, remember that the other is asleep upon your bed.


Extract from Kahlil Gibran’s The Prophet from CBSE 10th English Textbook.

A Guide to Coping with the Death of a Loved One

Martha is having difficulty sleeping lately and no longer enjoys doing things with her friends. Martha lost her husband of 26 years to cancer a month ago.

Anya, age 17, doesn’t feel like eating and spends the days in her room crying. Her grandmother recently died.

Both of these individuals are experiencing grief. Grief is an emotion natural to all types of loss or significant change.

Feelings of Grief

Although grief is unique and personal, a broad range of feelings and behaviours are commonly experienced after the death of a loved one.

Sadness. This is the most common, and it is not necessarily manifested by crying.

Anger. This is one of the most confusing feelings for a survivor. There may be frustration at not being able to prevent the death, and a sense of not being able to exist without the loved one.

Guilt and Self-reproach. People may believe that they were not kind enough or caring enough to the person who died, or that the person should have seen the doctor sooner.

Anxiety. An individual may fear that she/he won’t be able to for herself/himself.

Loneliness. There are reminders throughout the day that a partner, family member or friend is gone. For example, meals are no longer prepared the same way, phone calls to share a special moment don’t happen.

Fatigue. There is an overall sense of feeling tired.

Disbelief. This occurs particularly if it was a sudden death.

Helping Others Who Are Experiencing Grief

When a friend, loved one or co-worker is experiencing grief- how can we help? It helps to understand that grief is expressed through a variety of behaviours.

Reach out to others in their grief, but understand that some may not want to accept help and will not share their grief. Others will want to talk about their thoughts and feelings or reminisce.

Be patient and let the grieving person know that you care and are there to support him or her.


This is an excerpt from CBSE 10th English Textbook.