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Joy and Sorrow | Kahlil Gibran’s The Prophet

Joy and Sorrow

Then a woman said, “Speak to us of Joy and Sorrow”.
And he answered:
Your joy is your sorrow unmasked.
And the selfsame well from which your laughter rises was oftentimes filled with your tears.
And how else can it be?
The deeper that sorrow carves into your being, the more joy you can contain.
Is not the cup that holds your wine the very cup that was burned in the potter’s over?
And is not the lute that soothes your spirit, the very wood that was hollowed out with knives?
When you are joyous, look deep into your heart and you shall find it is only that which has given you sorrow that is giving you joy.
When you are sorrowful look again in your heart, and you shall see that in truth you are weeping for that which has been your delight.
Some you say, “Joy is greater than sorrow”, and others say, “Nay, sorrow is the greater.”
But I say unto you, they are inseparable.
Together they come, and when sits alone with you at your board, remember that the other is asleep upon your bed.


Extract from Kahlil Gibran’s The Prophet from CBSE 10th English Textbook.

A Guide to Coping with the Death of a Loved One

Martha is having difficulty sleeping lately and no longer enjoys doing things with her friends. Martha lost her husband of 26 years to cancer a month ago.

Anya, age 17, doesn’t feel like eating and spends the days in her room crying. Her grandmother recently died.

Both of these individuals are experiencing grief. Grief is an emotion natural to all types of loss or significant change.

Feelings of Grief

Although grief is unique and personal, a broad range of feelings and behaviours are commonly experienced after the death of a loved one.

Sadness. This is the most common, and it is not necessarily manifested by crying.

Anger. This is one of the most confusing feelings for a survivor. There may be frustration at not being able to prevent the death, and a sense of not being able to exist without the loved one.

Guilt and Self-reproach. People may believe that they were not kind enough or caring enough to the person who died, or that the person should have seen the doctor sooner.

Anxiety. An individual may fear that she/he won’t be able to for herself/himself.

Loneliness. There are reminders throughout the day that a partner, family member or friend is gone. For example, meals are no longer prepared the same way, phone calls to share a special moment don’t happen.

Fatigue. There is an overall sense of feeling tired.

Disbelief. This occurs particularly if it was a sudden death.

Helping Others Who Are Experiencing Grief

When a friend, loved one or co-worker is experiencing grief- how can we help? It helps to understand that grief is expressed through a variety of behaviours.

Reach out to others in their grief, but understand that some may not want to accept help and will not share their grief. Others will want to talk about their thoughts and feelings or reminisce.

Be patient and let the grieving person know that you care and are there to support him or her.


This is an excerpt from CBSE 10th English Textbook.

Be considerate during this tough times

Continuous lockdown or lockdown like situation has impacted a lot of us in ways we have never been trained for. We do not have the slightest of experience where in everyone we know is going through it. The scale at which the experience of a virus going around in life as well the sheer response of stopping everything has toppled the fundamental fabric of our society. The response has been demanding and it has taken a long term impact on every common person out there.

Usually the people who are in any particular situation be it natural disasters, wars or any kind of unrest, it is limited to a particular state, country or the continent. But when something becomes a norm for everyone due to things like global crisis or pandemics, things are often unprecedented for those who are experiencing for the first time.

In any war, there are calms between storms. There will be days when we lose faith. Days when our allies turn against us…but the day will never come that we forsake this planet and it’s people.

Optimus Prime

So when you meet people complaining about their health or their surrounding be considerate to them. It is not a usual time.

When you meet people complaining about their work or imbalance in life, be considerate to them. Wait for things to ease down.

When you find people worried about future, try to talk about something that makes people feel better and avoid thinking too much about the future. The need to the time is to be moving towards simpler life, at least for the time being.

The constant demand of trying to do something or excel might toss off few individuals or group, be considerate to them.

Because all the things that we did to make us happy, free, relaxing and feel pleasant have been revoked from us. So naturally all the drift of time is pulling us down bit by bit until everyone is experiencing the curve in the fabric of our social life. It may be demanding. It may feel that things are slipping by. But some of us must start to hold on to something strong. Since we cannot go out and do things we used to, we may have to adapt to new things or very old things that we are not doing anymore.

Try to take a look at old photographs of your families, events or marriages.

Eat whatever is available in your vicinity. Try to balance out simple food with basic ingredients. Try some new recipe. Eat together and enjoy sharing time.

Watch your favorite shows or movies together with family. Revive all the good times that you had.

Arrange to play games that can be managed at home. If you would like or relax.

If someone is not well, take care of them. Provide healthy food and drink ample water.

If you have to meet someone who stays far off, try to arrange a video call and talk peacefully. Things may seem a bit odd but then the way to go forward is so.

Write if you may. Paint if you like. Play if you wish. Cook if that connects you. Feel good about yourself with whatever that makes you feel better. Do not send out too much negative vibes and for that matter even good vibes. Try to keep life simple and wait for the things to settle down

If you know someone who needs help, then try to get them help in whichever way you can. Make a call if that’s what it takes. Speak nicely to people whom you know and share their emotions.

Try to talk about staying at home as much as possible because the people we know or the people in our life are not aware of the way to go forward. If you feel too much stuck, try to do indoor activites. Arrange for yoga or similar activities.

There are days we are weak and we may feel that we need help, but in time we will learn that we need to try things slowly at our end and help will arrive in whichever form it can.

So my dear fellow Earthling, even though the times are tough and the difficulties doesn’t seem to get any less, believe in yourself and navigate through these times. Together we will reach into the world of better times. We will all thrive and smile soon, for we are fighters. Brave men have shown us examples of fighting through similar times and by remembering them, we will advance ahead into building a safe world in ways each one of us contribute and participate.

Stay safe and be happy in whichever little ways you can. I send out my affection and warmth to all of you. Take care.

Whatever you are seeking is already seeking you !

Whatever you are seeking is already seeking for you !

It is about what we think about all the time. The innate thing within us that makes us who we are. Sometimes we may wait or sometimes we may rush. But our compass is already redirected towards it. We cannot know when we are going towards it or when we are in the process of it, but when we reach there or we pass that point, we can look back and say for our story that something we happen to become was meticulously laid down by series of events and occurences which make it sound that what we were seeking was already making its way towards us.

That’s about it.

A mix of psychology, philosophy, observation of life, function of human mind and their abilities. It sums up it all.

But this is about deeper things in life and not about the regular stuff that one may think to achieve or possess. It’s about those one or two things that makes a whole lot of difference in someone’s life.

And yes, it’s a beautiful quote.

To be able to actually believe it or just know it and traverse the journey to all the odds, is a matter of golden heart and mind.


Have you experienced something like this. Do you believe in this saying. What are your thoughts, share them in comment section below.

What are hobbies that can make you feel better

READING

Read a book. A story, a novel, an article or whatever that resonates with you. If possible read regularly, every day. Find some interest that you want to know more about – may be like History, Science, Culture, Technology, Humans, Countries, Wildlife, Wars or Expeditions.

COOKING

Cook something once in a while. It is a skill that will help you all the times. When you have to live alone or far from home or cook for self or others, it is a decent skill to possess. It will make you independent and be able to take care of your health better. If you enjoy more, try different dishes and cooking styles. May be bake a little if that’s your style. Try a salad and feel refresh. Whatever it may be, enjoy it to the full. And clean your kitchen to revisit with a new mood.

CYCLING

SKYGAZING

Follow the sun for a week in the morning and the evening. Look at it rise above the horizon and set below it. Keep an eye how it shifts over the span of weeks, months and seasons. Note the solstice and the equinox.

Follow the Moon for a month to see it change its phases. Notice how it shines bright on Fullmoon and doesn’t appear on new Moon. Catch for the crescent moons and when it comes close to planets and stars.

Look for the planets – Mercury, Venus, Mars, Jupiter and Saturn. Follow the stars as per the season. Meet Orion, Leo, Scorpious, Sagittarius, Great Bear and others. Look for the ISS flying by over your sky and know that there are people in it.

GARDENING

SKETCHING

SINGING

BIRDWATCHING

LEARNING A LANGUAGE

PLAYING SOME INSTRUMENT

WRITING

DANCING

SWIMMING

MEDITATION

JOGGING

PETS

CRAFT

TINKERING

TRAVEL

TALKING