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How history has always been recruiting skills and talents

Back in the days of kings and kingdoms, there used to be courts and courtyards. Those were not courts like the legal courts we have today. They were more like a one-stop-point for people in the kingdom to come about to find solutions to problems, to showcase talent, skills, art and to find justice were some of the major things done.

One peculiar offering of such courts was the display of skills and talent before the king and courtiers. By showcasing some skill they have practiced for years, they impress the king and get price in form of gold, jewels, ornaments or other offering based on how moving and fine the skill is acquired. If it is of use to the kingdom then such skillmen would be recruited in the particular area under the kingdom to serve for the king in return of goods, place to stay and constant pay.

Similarly people who had nothing to show but display their rigor for language, wisdom and understanding of life would also come before the court. They would go about singing some songs or showing control of their arts or speaking in witty ways that would impress the king. The deeper the understanding of world, higher they would have opportunities to be in the good record books of King and his noteworthy people.

Today similar courts are seen in the campus recruitments sometimes at the premises of the organisations, while other times at the institutes. For many years individuals acquire skills in particular area by learning, practicing, training and showcasing what they can do or have been doing. Usually things that one has done is classified as projects and what one can do is classified as dreams. Projects help people be recruited like those in times of courts and be given a job to be done. They must expand their skill to build, create or maintain something in the company and in return they get salary, bonds, house, amenities and shares. As higher their skill and contribution along with their interest to stay in the same kingdom, the greater the returns. They get promoted based on their performance and contribution.

If they lack the projects to showcase what they have done, they may show promise. By speaking in witty ways or showing what their thoughts are they can crack multiple interviews. This is a way to get a chance to be held worthy of something and given the opportunity to prove. So by going through various level of tests, whoever gets to the end receives an offer letter, a written agreement from the king to be paid for their services and their brains.

History has always shaped things slowly in ways that we humans do not see. Our cultures and lifestyles have been tamed in ways that we feel proud of them and we participate with our might, happiness and concrete beliefs. But most likely nothing has changed from the times things used to be the way they were and how things are now.

Certainly we enjoy the flexibility of choosing the temperature in our room, drinking the water purified to the extent we like and store food for days and buy things we like. We possibly feel and do things like a king in the old era couldn’t do, hence the praise live king-size life.

But what we do lack is our position in the entire consensus doesn’t essentially change much. Things improve overall and we get the benefits of it. But we never fully realise our dreams and thoughts. We live within the periphery of the structure that has been bestowed upon us by our choice or circumstances and we capitalize the maximum within that bubble.

Many other beliefs and operations in our life related to our culture, lifestyle and social motto are embedded in us in ways that limit our views. We buy those beliefs and we sell them. We are afterall what we have always been doing. We just try to do things differently. Most things in life along history are fluid and they keep moving in direction of natural flow. We are just small entities within that flow.

Having a bad day ? Going through bad mood ! Try this

Breaking the chain of anger and bad mood.

Beautiful start of the day. Early morning he wakes up and gets ready. He kisses his wife morning, hugs his daughter and eats his breakfast. He takes a ride to office via cab. He wishes good day to the cab driver. He reaches office. He makes his way into the canteen, grabs his coffee and joins morning meeting. Everyone takes note and go back to their desk to complete the assigned work. He joins his colleagues for lunch.

The chain reaction is triggered. Post lunch in a meeting with delegates he is put on spot by his manager and gets a trashing from higher management for incompetency. Since he believed he was not at fault, rage built in him. He went to grab a coffee at canteen. He was mad at the server for the coffee seemed cold. He went to complete his work and found some pending work with his colleague, so he ran into an argument regarding that. Further during evening meeting with his subordinates he was picking everyone for their mistakes and scolding unnecessarily for no apparent reason. Wrapping for the day, he catches a cab towards home.

How it spreads during the day. The cab driver doesn’t accept card and doesn’t find any change with him. He fights with the cab driver and abuses him. He enters home and finds his daughter playing on ground. He scolds her for playing in dirt and shouts at his wife. She tries to cool him down but instead they find that he has forgotten to bring eggs for dinner. They manage something for dinner. He gets into an argument with the neighbors for loud noise from TV. He scolds his parents over phone for not taking care of them. He doesn’t meet his friends for late evening walk.

Day ends in a bad mood. He is in bed. His day has gone from beautiful start to a tiresome dreadful night.

Looking back at how it all started. By continuing with the experience of meeting over the day, he ran into multiple encounters which kept worsening as his outlook, energy and mood detoriated over the day. He kept on flowing that anger onto other persons, who in turn based on their own emotional level get angry on others. Early morning managers wife made a burnt sandwich, which got worse for him by a flat tire in his car, unable to find a ride for an hour and so on.

Negative emotions are our enemies. Everyday we all spread different emotions around us based on our encounters. Most often that not, when triggered by some negative emotions, we drag it for the entire day or sometimes for whole week depending upon it’s gravity. In process we hurt some people along the way, some whom we love and care for. We get hurt or upset on our own. Things might not be so worse often but even a spur of moment and anger bursts out like anything. By words or our actions we cannot undo, we create a scene. This amplifies certain times.

Shifting the flow of thoughts and emotions. We cannot choose what happens to us every moment. We are humans. We react to things. But we can improve. We can choose to observe what is happening around us. We can train ourselves to become more observant and calm. When we notice how our emotions are shifting over the day, we can tell ourselves what went wrong. If we can develop the habit of consolidating actions over the day and identify where things could have been damped down. We can train to respond in a more calm fashion.

Practicing to respond and being mindful. By frequently choosing to respond instead of reacting to situations and events during the day, we can make our normal response model to be a more generic, joyful and cautious one. By practising mindfulness in small things we can become calm, cheerful, delightful person over the day, over the week and when continued for years, it becomes over inherent nature to be mindful, calm and less angry.

Lessons learned. By breaking the chain of thoughts, encounters and events over the day, we help ourselves from experiencing prolonged negative emotions as well as assist in curbing the spread to people around us especially our loved ones.


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